There are some basic rules to marriage to run a healthy and happy life, well no one can be prefect but there are few things which can be controlled. If one really is willing to put foot forward for a happier marriage life rather putting it to situations and getting aside from facts, then I guess it is supposed to take both a very long way. One essential thing is being open not collating everything in mind (heart).
Steps have to be taken from both sides but one has to take initiative, none is going to last anything by being a starter. Attitude is at its best when kept away from personal life.
Basic rules for Husbands (For would be Grooms)
Rule No.1: Never compare your mamma’s cooking with your wife’s! There is no faster way to dig your own grave than that! Please understand that your mom’s cooking has the backing of 20 odd years of experience.. .. Don’t expect that from your wife who’s hardly into the process! What if she were to compare your earning capacity with her dad’s!!! So shshshhhhh.. ..!!!
Rule No.2: Never go out of your way to please the lady with flowers, chocolates and gifts during your engagement period. If ever you do, please follow it up post-wedding too! When you could cover 20kms in 15 minutes when you are engaged just to spend some time with her, how dare you forget her birthday post – marriage, even after you are given the broadest of hints by her!
Remember expectations always double…ever heard of them being halved???
Rule No.3: Do compliment her every now and then, verbally or with gifts! What are those lovely Teddies and Archie’s gift cards for? Don’t sit there like the Lord Of The Rings expecting to be waited upon! Of course she will do it but everyone likes to be appreciated and pampered!!!!
Rule No.4: Please know that there is world other than you for your lady. If you are the easy going sorts, she too has friends and family like you. If you are the possessive sorts, she cannot be a person like you as each person is different. Space these days is very important in a relationship. Give her space she wants and she will be happy with you.
Rule No.5: This is very important! Sulking or complaining about marriage being a big mistake is a strict NO -NO!! You got into it with your eyes wide open, brimming with enthusiasm!! No one ever pushed you into it! So why this drama now!
Rule No.6: It is important for a lady to feel that her future man is competitive, as these days the whole world is so competitive. This is especially when the lady is career oriented. So don’t freak her out by being lethargic. Have the right focus about your career.
Rule No.7: Be Brave and take your own decisions and stand up by them!!
Consult your parents for advice but realize that you are grown up enough to lead your life! Respect your partner’s views at all times! Remember she has given up a lot more to make a life with you!!
Basic Rules for Wife’s (For would be Bride’s)
Rule No 1: Don’t expect too much from him. Less the expectations lesser the disappointments.
Rule No 2: Don’t ever dare to plan any outing or movie on a day when there is an interesting cricket match going on. REMEMBER SPORTS <READ CRICKET> is more important to him than anything else. You spoil his day n He spoils yours
Rule No 3: Over Emotions, Sentiments… Woha… What are these? Tears are not going to give any results either. It’s just a temporary attention that u get. No one likes Cry Babies m whining Wife’s.
Rule No 4: Never dare to cross with his mother. Even if he says “My Mom’s cooking is the best. You are nothing in front of her.” take it easily with a smile. Tell him that you are learning from his mother and will try to do it better. You are not going to lose anything!
Rule No 5: Try to know his friends and understand that they are also part of his world. Allow him to spend few weekends or occasional night out parties with his friends. But at the same time make sure that you get your due importance! It must not be that he roams around with his friends forgetting that you exist at home.
Rule No 6: Don’t start fighting for silly things. Forgetting birthdays n Anniversaries is not a big mistake. Men are not blessed with 2 GB RAM for storing everything in main memory. If you are very particular about present gifts n parties on your birthday’s n anniversaries. Make sure u remind them well in advance by some means (I know it sounds stupid. But if u are so particular, Do it for u r own good)
Rule No 7: Take him for your shopping only if he’s interested. If you are going for Window Shopping or for sari purchase, better go with your friends/go alone. He is better at office/home watching cricket.
Rule No 8: Give him importance always. Show due care and affection. That’s the only way to win a guy’s mind.